Thursday, May 3, 2012

Let Go

If you know me personally, you know that I am very organized, bordering on controlling.  I can frustrate easily, and deal with a fair amount of anxiety when things don't happen my way, or in the timeline I prefer.

Parenting a young child both aggravates that, and is a cure.  I find the more expectations I place on a day, the more disappointed I am when I don't accomplish what I've set out to do.  I've come to realize that if I plan to just be a good mom, anything else that happens is just a bonus.  I am much more patient and calm.  I can deal with upsets and stress with a mind toward the big picture.

It's not easy for me to think this way, and I need to keep reminding myself of my long-term goals - raise a happy kid, have a calm house.

So, my peas aren't in the ground yet, I haven't done anything with the front garden beyond raking and general tidying, and the garden shed is a mess.

That's all okay.  It can wait. 

And now I'm going outside to figure out how to plant peas with a kid strapped to my back.


  1. how about an outdoor playpen for those times when you want or need to garden? ....I had one for my youngest ...he is 16 now and he still enjoys to wander. Maybe a sandbox for Henry ? ('round here we just drop a load of sand box required)

  2. You are so right about saying that things can wait, Kristine. I know that you have heard it before but your beautiful son will grow up so fast, right before your eyes! Enjoy every precious moment and treasure the good and bad moments with him. Let the laundry and housework go every now and then and just be one with Henry! Hugs!

  3. Keep in mind that it is still early. Usually we don't worry too much about the gardens until after frost (which I know we think was gone many days ago) but usually that's not until the May long weekend. Smile. The peas will get planted and grow.